November 8, 2011
by Sarah
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Right now, all is quiet in the house, save for the tapping of computer keys. Price put Jadzia down to see if that makes any difference. She cried for about 45 minutes, off and on, but she did that last time and I peeked in to find her awake and staring at the door. Oh, well. Let’s see if it holds for the night.

So, with help from my mom, I finished off J’s costume just in time for Trunk or Treat the day before Halloween. It was only slightly too small in the legs, which meant that they kept popping open and as the night wore on, she figured out how to get her feet free. I ended up having to glue in velcro dots with fabric glue because the snap tape was just not working with me. I must’ve tried to sew that in about 5 times with no luck. It all worked out in the end, and I think she made for a cute alien.
Halloween night, on the other hand, was a little depressing. We didn’t have nearly as many trick or treaters this year, and since I bought tons of extra candy to avoid almost running out like last year, we will now be eating Jolly Ranchers and Nerds until NEXT Halloween. I don’t know if it was because Halloween fell on a school night or if the demographics of our neighborhood are changing. There were tons of houses with the lights out, though. I guess next year, Jadzia will just have to Trunk or Treat it and just go visit our family friends down the street on actual Halloween night. It’s safer, but it makes me a little sad since last year it was so festive on our block with trick or treating fizzling out about 9 p.m. This year it was pretty much done with in our neighborhood by 7:30.
I’m starting to slowly add more to my plate–doing some web tinkering for our church, volunteering to head up a few projects, and picking up some knitting projects again. It doesn’t sound like much, but when Jadzia cries when I leave her side for more than a second, it’s pretty major. We’ve been trying the crying it out during the day so that I can try and get some housework done, but that’s been about as successful as getting her to cry it out to sleep. (Like right now, she’s doing her on and off crying again.)
I wish there was an easier way, but as I keep being reminded–we must’ve “spoiled her by holding her all the time.” Do I regret doing that? Only when it’s 11 p.m. and she’s been crying like a banshee for me since 9:30. Either way, I feel like I’m letting her down. If I pick her up and take her to bed with us, am I squashing her independence? If I leave her there to cry her little head off, am I damaging her little psyche? There probably isn’t any harm in it, but these are the thoughts that run through my mind as we try letting her “cry it out.” We’ve tried a few other techniques to get her to sleep or spend a few minutes by herself, but they’ve been a bust, too.
Price says it’ll be easier when she’s older “and we can reason with her.” Really. How can you “reason” with a tantrum throwing 1 or 2 year-old who wants to sleep with you? I can’t wait to see him try, though!